Fakeness

I just don't understand the difference between being fake or being a diplomat. I know that sometimes diplomacy can be great because it can earn you some brownie points. I mean you are not going to tell your 300lb manager that she doesn't need to order that 12 oz filet mignon. I mean that's just dumb because if you do that you will get fired. So diplomacy is great if you have to save your skin or your job for that matter, but I just can't stand being fake. For instance I had attended a meeting recently and this guy was trying to say all the right things to get everyone;s attention and with every comment of his people were praising him to the sky but I just couldn't get myself to do that. Honestly I just was not impressed. Also, I can't give fake compliments. I just can't be fake like that and maybe that has hurt me in the past. I carry my emotions on my face and when something doesn't meet my approval you will see it. In my opinion that shows that I am true to myself but to others it may seem that I am arrogant or just plain rude.

So is it better to compromise with who you are just to look good in someone else's eyes? I don't know the answer but I am trying to learn one day at a time.

R